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Thursday, December 20, 2012

Feel strong!

My story: Sometimes I have perceived myself to be among the weak, Sometimes I had to project myself as weak (to my husband) to protect the teenager child. Today I see myself strong as I am working towards making the"perceived" weak feel strong. And I am stronger than the strong.
Abundance is a state of mind within you. If you just look at "lack," the lack increases in life. See what you have, and then abundance increases.
His Holiness
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar 
This is a call for all psychiatric patients to feel strong identifying and complimenting yourself for your own strength.

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Honor your spouse

Recognise your spouse is the powerful mentor for you. Listen to his/her comments. Remember they are oppurtunities for you to take note of your shortcomings and work on them, or reminders for you that there are different ways of doing things. You do not develop well when you are always caught up with your own way of thinking and nothing else. When you are open to new ideas, may be good ideas from your spouse, I can assure you can soon grow as a dynamic personality. Compliment your spouse for all the care he or she shows towards you and just for being there in your life. Do not hesitate to say "Thanks", "I love you" or "So nice of you" . I am proud of my husband and honor him by writing this post.

I and my husband below:

Prevention of Teenage Depression

Parents can take efforts to prevent teenage depression, though there is no sure way to prevent teenage depression. The chances of teenage depression is higher when one or both the parents undergoes depression or anxiety or even great amount of stress. Parents have to learn to be calm and gentle while communicating with their teenage children. There are a few things that parents can do for reducing the chance of teenage depression.

1. Spend time with your teenage child everyday.
2. Praise your child's accomplishments and strengths whatever be the area. .
3. Talk with your teenage child on topics she likes or is excited about.
4. Give positive feedback for positive behavior.
5. Do some activities together like preparing meals, eating together or watching a movie
6. Allow your teenager to express his or her feelings. Ask open ended questions like "What is exciting this week ?"
7. Respond to your child's anger without reacting with anger. Instead stay calm and handle the situation gracefully.
Graduate yourself on the same day your child graduates on something called "Understanding your Teen" and "Praising your Teen"

Remember parents have to make adjustments understanding the teenage child's needs and preferences. Doing so will pay back in the long term when the child leads a successful and happy life.

Saturday, August 4, 2012

God's game

Krishna plays game with whom he loves the most! Your sorrow, challenges are his mischief. Krishna gifts enormously those with whom he played the longest game.

Friday, May 4, 2012

Smile Please!

Smile from the heart
Smile as you help the needy
Smile as you feel strong
Smile as you praise others
Smile as you Smile!

Sunday, March 4, 2012

You are successful!

For those suffering clinical depression since adolescence, the good news is that success will be at your doorstep sooner or later. Probably you have gone through more turbulence, nevertheless profound clarity arrives at the  termination of the turbulence.

Remember, though it appears as if life had been always challenging, it was not. There had been much more instances of pleasant times than you would recall instantly. You had been alert more often than being confused. You had been caught up in negative feelings only in a  small fraction of the time you were awake.

Stop thinking you are negative. Label yourself as positive and keep up to your new labelling!

Abrahom Lincoln

When Abraham Lincoln has been successful amidst the challenges due to his psychiatric problem why not you even if you are a psychiatric patient. Take a look at Lincoln's story.

Farewell to obscessions

Give a farewell to your obscessive thinking by doing yoga and meditation. Substitute your obscessive thinking by "GREAT THINKING" with a open heart. Let your life be a classroom for others. Motivate others to motivate themself.

Farewell to conflicts

Are you intelligent but getting into mental conflicts? There is a way out. Start giving. Use the intelligence to get the whole picture, create and keep creating. Let others use what you create. And see for yourself the conflicts are gone.

Take care of your offspring

Are you concerned you have projected your anxiety to your offspring.
Reverse its effects. Display high self esteem, shift lifestyle away from perfectionism. Trust them, praise them, keep talking about their good attributes more often. See the results for yourself.

Child that is obscessive in nature

Extreme kindness and custom interpretation is required from the parents when it comes to handling a child with obscessions and anxiety. Anxiety and obscessive thinking are handed over from previous generations. It becomes imperative that both parents should understand that the child is obscessive (most likely atleast one of the parents exhibit this trait) and handle the child with extreme kindness, not being harsh with the child even when the child resorts to behavior that is not reasonable. This is a tough thing to practice, but it is worth practicing. It is easy to interpret that child is acting with ego when it is irritable or shouts with a loud voice, but by careful observation of how the child behaves at other times, the parents can easily figure out that the child is not egoistic. For example if a child shouts frequently, but yet cries at other times when parents deny something, it is obvious that the child is not egoistic. Parents should not forget that the child is acting in a way akin to how the parents would react to similar situations. Parents should take into account their own pitfalls, and how they might have inadvertently harmed the child by way of their authoritative and other types of controlling behavior towards the child. This is applicable for an adolescent child as well.

It becomes parents' responsibility to realise their role in generating anxiety in the child, by way of exhibiting anxiety themself. It might be that the obscessive parent had been exhibiting shouting behavior or other expressions of anger towards the child. Parents should take deliberate efforts to mitigate the situation under this circumstance. Parents should accomodate all kinds of unreasonable demands posed by the child and do their best for the welfare of the child.

A child has got risk for anxiety and/or depression if one of the parents had clinical depression. So this child has to be taken care specially considering the risk. Parents should be extremely friendly and should learn to communicate politely at all times.

Kalki Avatar

In Hindu religion it is believed that God has taken 9 avathars so far and the next one is 10th Kalki Avathar. Personally I have visualised this Kalki Avatar as the collection of humans with goodwill helping out the needy in some form or other on a day to day basis. It will include me in the collection. It is believed that God always listens to your requests. So ask your requests to this Kalki Avatar by mentally tuning to this collection.

Introspect and correct.

Most of the issues around us are issues as we perceive them as issues. An issue is not an issue if you look at it at the magic angle. You precisely get to the magic angle as long as you practice positive thinking towards anything and everything and learn the principle of radical acceptance. Unconditional love, creativity and arriving at win-win situations are other things that comes to my mind when it comes to holding on to the magic angle in our day to day life.

Why do a multitude of people survive threats and loss without much consequences whereas another multitude of people fall apart even for the minimal loss or threats? The difference is to do with the magic angle of looking at it. People are biologically different in the way they think and respond to events around them.

For those who are overwhelmed in life , the best way to return to ease is to introspect and observe closely the lessons learnt, be reminded of these lessons in their daily life, and learning not to repeat their earlier mistakes.

Introspection will work best if you are parallelly doing meditation in your daily routine. Changing your habits based on the introspection results would be natural if you are regular in meditation. Introspection can also be done by becoming a good listener. Listen closely to what people who are close to you, like your family members has to comment on your character. Those hidden shortcomings of yours will come to focus and you can start working on them at your ease.

Why not the world be like this?

Whenever we had been puzzled why things are defined in certain way in the external world, we are in trouble. Those who thought why not the world be like the way it is now, have been successful than those who taught why world is like this. I am celebrating Women's day this year by shifting myself to the pool of people who thinks
why not the world be like this.

Be it the newance of your child's behavior, be it your sagging competence level at work, the way to go is to accept them as they are, and to do your best to bring harmony.

Saturday, March 3, 2012

My Logging for the benefit of others!

I believe, any health issue can be improved by logging the efforts we take towards self healing of the health issue and later correlating the efforts versus the improvement/degradation of the health issue. Many health issues can be relieved based on our own habits. So I am publicly logging in this blog, with the aim of an illustration for the above statement.

Mar 3: Saturday:
Negative thoughts : Minimal
Continuous thoughts : Little
Positive thoughts : Good amount

Mar 6:
Neg. : Very minimal
Continuous : Very minimal
Positive : Good amount

Mar 7:
Neg. : Very minimal
Continuous : Very minimal
Positive : Good amount

Energy Savers

We get energy from food, sleep, meditation etc. Energy is wasted by entertaining some thought or other constantly. From today, you can discover your own energy savers.

It is good to keep a checkpoint on these aspects on a daily basis.

Am I getting negative thoughts about anything. If yes how often?
Work to identify a positive way of looking at it, be creative, instead of complaining, do something about it so that it is a win-win situation for the parties involved.

Am I living in the present moment? Try to avoid entertaining thoughts while doing something. For example, while driving, do only driving. Do not think. While waiting for someone, enjoy the surroundings. Do not think.

Do yoga and meditation daily. If you have done for 21 days in a row then you are good to go. The habit is already set within you. You don't have to take efforts to maintain it.

By taking care of these, diligently, within a couple of months, you can realise you are able to do more in a day.

Sunday, February 26, 2012

Anxiety at workplace

A company like CISCO offers webinars on Anxiety at workplace focussing on how to handle anxiety in a way to reduce it's impact on work and life.The webinar mentioned a good percentage of employees in a company are having anxiety. Anxiety is closely related to stress picked up over a long time period of time. For people with chronic anxiety, it is absolutely essential to handle it appropriately to be able to perform good if not excellent. The techniques suggested in the Webinar were yoga, meditation, deep breathing (even at workplace). All of us possess certain degree of anxiety at work whether we will be finishing it on time, or our work will be free of errors. For some the degree might be greater, and in the end the anxiety might interfere with the performance.

Sunday, February 19, 2012

Depression transfers across generations

It is very unfortunate that anxiety and or depression runs in families across generations. If the father or mother suffers anxiety, it introduces anxiety in the child in a different way. Father may exhibit anxiety in a different form or in different areas of life whereas the child may develop and exhibit anxiety in other areas. Then when the child becomes a parent, based on the degree of anxiety/depression experienced in the childhood rears it's child with all the ill effects of anxiety. So the grandchild is even more anxious. In any given generation, the condition can go worse if not treated properly or handled appropriately.

If the other family members are extremely kind, understanding and cooperate well with the affected member, then things would remain in control. If the entire set of family members have an awareness about anxiety and depression and it's effect on life of the affected persons, it would benefit the family.